About Jealousy and Freakouts

Many people, inside a relationship, wonder: why do i feel so jealous about him or her? why can't i stand the thinking of the other doin' something without me and having such a great time?
Usually, the jealousy is seen as a demonstration of love in our society....As much jealous you can get, means as much the other thinks you love him.. I don't believe this....
I believe taht jealousy is a selfish reaction of the one who's jealous. Why? 'Cause you normally feel it when you see the other having a good time or preffering to do something that don't requires your presence. I can say i'm a moderate jealous, but still knowing all of this, i don't give up of this jealous life...eheheheheheh
So, i say that before based on the fact that the jealousy don't always happens only when you see the other having a talk alone with a person of the other sex without anyone around... in these situations, it's dumb not to feel the power of destruction that comes with jealousy....but, if you stop to think, you feel jealous about other things very different of this one... as an example, when he or she tells you that he is going to a friend's house, to talk about things he don't talk with you. Aside of the paranoic thoughts, you feel jealous, even knowing sometimes that they will be alone, just talking. From this point, you'll have to agree that it's not about how much you love or worship the other, but...with the desire of being everything the other needs. In another words, when you get jealous, almost always is because you have to deal with your imperfection, with the idea that you're not capable of being the world to the other, being the best friend, the mate at shopping, etc. Your not perfect. And the strange or ironic point is that you end up blaiming and yelling at the other when your jealous. As is he/she was responsible for your imperfection! Crazy isn't it?
But knowing this, as happens to me, will not make you stop yelling or having freakouts in front of your lover...but it can make you think one second thought....'cause if you love the other person, you'll have to trust that he/she will respect you no matter what. Love is this...trunst in the invisible and impossible....


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